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寻找身边的幸福——Find pleasure, meaning and life’s ultimate currency to be happier（2010级本科生党支部Zhang Yuyue）
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--Find pleasure, meaning and life’s ultimate currency to be happier.
10 Class 1 Zhang Yuyue
This summer holiday, I read a famous book which is called Happier. It is a book about active psychology and was written by Doctor Tal Ben-Shahar, a popular professor of Harvard. After reading it, I feel a great baptism in my heart.
When I first turned the pages, the contents attracted me so much. The book includes three chapters: what is happiness, how to be happy, and some thinking about happy. Because I usually feel tired, pressed, and frustrated in daily life, I’ll appreciate it if it can help me out and influence my mood towards every day .
In the process I read the book, I felt the style and words were not that gorgeous as I expected forward. Differently, the expression is quite ordinary like a river flowing down. It cannot only flow into your eyes, but also your mind and heart.
In the first chapter, the author takes me to explore the real meaning of happiness. He told some examples to show though people are always procuring happiness, they do not understand happiness itself. In modern society, we have an objection to poverty, difficulty, and failure more or less, but the more successful we are, the greedier we get. Certainly, people are not easy to get content. So we cannot stop our footstep and ignore many fantastic landscape around, we merely concentrate on the prospects which is so-called aims. Thereby, People’s worry and pressure cause social rhythm faster and faster, then the vicious circle forms. It is people who keep themselves away from happiness. Actually, the delight that achieving aims and keeping fast footsteps bring is not permanent, enjoying the procedure and goals are both significant.
Nowadays, human race regard money as the ultimate aim of life, and measure everything by the amount of money. Even when girls meant to marry a man, their family or themselves will ask for a household as the first request. This phenomenon is ridiculous. Research shows that there is no significant relationship between how much a person earns and whether he feels good about life. So what is happiness? To be sure, happiness doesn’t equal to money or success. To think carefully, at the same time we work hard to earn a lot of money, who can make up the loss we lose.
There are a greet number of exercises we should take good care of in this book. For example, the most impressive to me is to think of at least five things which make you feel warmed and happy that day before you go to bed. I did it that night I read it, the effect was exciting. In my mind, that was a conventional day and noting special had taken place. But as I recalled the day and think carefully about the five things, I felt warmed, happy, and slept with smile on face. On that moment, I thought I started to understand the definition of happiness. Since then, I did this exercise every night, I think I gain a lot through it. Therefore, as we all know, to establish good habits has great meaning to build our qualities and enhance our feeling of happiness.
I dare bet no one can give a definition of happiness, but we can really feel happiness by ourselves’ attempt. Don’t forget: happiness is the combination of pleasure and meaning.
However, when we feel grief or despair, we may complain of the unfairness of society. Happiness doesn’t equal to delight, happiness may contain sorrow, difficulty, challenge and so on. Whatever, we need to clearly aware happiness is still our normal state，unlucky things are just an episode instead. Furthermore, facing challenges will make us appreciate any kinds of joy. To gain real happiness, we must know whatever we will face , sadness, examination, or difficulty, we are supposed to feel happy from heart for life itself.
In the second chapter, the author told us how to realize happiness.
As for study, few students may say “I like it”, here the author raises some method that is efficient. Most students study under awful pressure, that makes them hatred studying. Whenever there is opportunity, they will stop to do something they prefer. Why can’t we make studying interesting for students? Students should be given liberal atmosphere to show their talent and do things they have interest in. Also, we don’t encourage that parents push children to do something beyond their ability, we say that only when the level of difficulty and ability are comparable, children could enjoy the experience of studying.
As for occupation, the most important factor for us to choose a job is we enjoy it. I completely agree to this point. Compared with people who earn a high wage, work long time every day ,always have much tough tasks to handle ,and have little spare time to share with family and companions, I would like to be a person doing my favorite job, earning medium wages, and enjoying my life colorful. What about you? If you want to be a manager, you need to supply employees with suitable occupation, this is helpful to take advantage of their talent and potential. At the time you bring happiness to others, you bring success to yourself.
How to find our favorite occupation? We can ask three questions to ourselves: What can give me meaning? What can give me pleasure? What are my strengths? Find out the common sections amongst them, maybe we would have a distinct orientation.
As for love and marriage, Doctor Tal Ben-Shahar also has his outstand understanding. Love and marriage are both pretty words for human race, there are millions of impressive love stories around the world. Different people have different ideas and method of love. The article refers that if you love someone, you should love what he naturally is in no condition. And, love is not comparable of sacrifice. If our conduct can bring happiness to both our lover and ourselves, what we do is valuable, or we should abandon that conduct of sacrificing.
I have heard a sentence in a movie which is “No matter how you choose the marriage, you will make mistake at last. What is the most important is to let the mistake keep on.” What a significant sentence! We shouldn’t keep looking forward to the best lover, what we need to do is getting understand our lover gradually and flourish love’s tree sincerely and carefully. We need to be understood instead of recognized. To understand and to be understand constantly will keep love fisher and endurable.
To love is easy, to marry means facing up every day together. Romantic love cannot prolong, but deep relationship will replace it, and happiness is alongside the whole procedure.
The third chapter is concerning some exercises about the essence of happiness and happiness in our daily life.
By doing these exercises, I know that we should help others, give love to others, to keep touch with happiness and transmit happiness; We should often spend sometime in doing our favorite things and getting together with people we love to make our happiness foundation stiffer; we should make good use of time to make our happiness eternal; we should believe in ourselves, find our ability and value to light the world; we should imagine what life we want to live in the future and learn to relax ourselves to live better; we should share our happiness with others to save the whole society’s happiness lack, and so fort.
Finally, in order to get hold of own happiness, we should learn to cherish present things. Happiness is accumulation of life, whatever the experience that impressed us or the drops of instant. So make full of our time to enjoy every moment in daily life, because every thing may be our precious memory tomorrow.
This is a book worth to be thinking, rereading, and prospect. The active psychology that Doctor Tal Ben-Shahar advocates is different from traditional psychology. It stresses practice rather than ideal theory. Maybe many points in the book are familiar to us all, but most time we just leave them alone and can’t remind of them. Reading this book recalls many things in my mind, it will educate me and leading me all the time.
In total, happiness exists everywhere, everyone has the capacity of being happy. The definition of happiness maybe variable, but happiness is always combination of pleasure and meaning in essential. Happiness is not ease, unlimited enjoyment, achievement or money, it contains things both wonderful and miserable. Money is not the ultimate aim of life, it is a mere way of obtaining happiness. Don’t be blind by the unrealistic temptation, make sure what we need truly. Be confident and build an accurate mental attitude，we have enough ability to enhance our happy feeling and establish from a colorful small life circle to a more harmonious world. To be happy is not our goal of life, but to be happier.
Let’s fighting for our real happiness happily!
--Find pleasure, meaning and life’s ultimate currency to be happier.
10 Class 1 Zhang Yuyue
This summer holiday, I read a famous book which is called Happier. It is a book about active psychology and was written by Doctor Tal Ben-Shahar, a popular professor of Harvard. After reading it, I feel a great baptism in my heart.
When I first turned the pages, the contents attracted me so much. The book includes three chapters: what is happiness, how to be happy, and some thinking about happy. Because I usually feel tired, pressed, and frustrated in daily life, I’ll appreciate it if it can help me out and influence my mood towards every day .
In the process I read the book, I felt the style and words were not that gorgeous as I expected forward. Differently, the expression is quite ordinary like a river flowing down. It cannot only flow into your eyes, but also your mind and heart.
In the first chapter, the author takes me to explore the real meaning of happiness. He told some examples to show though people are always procuring happiness, they do not understand happiness itself. In modern society, we have an objection to poverty, difficulty, and failure more or less, but the more successful we are, the greedier we get. Certainly, people are not easy to get content. So we cannot stop our footstep and ignore many fantastic landscape around, we merely concentrate on the prospects which is so-called aims. Thereby, People’s worry and pressure cause social rhythm faster and faster, then the vicious circle forms. It is people who keep themselves away from happiness. Actually, the delight that achieving aims and keeping fast footsteps bring is not permanent, enjoying the procedure and goals are both significant.
Nowadays, human race regard money as the ultimate aim of life, and measure everything by the amount of money. Even when girls meant to marry a man, their family or themselves will ask for a household as the first request. This phenomenon is ridiculous. Research shows that there is no significant relationship between how much a person earns and whether he feels good about life. So what is happiness? To be sure, happiness doesn’t equal to money or success. To think carefully, at the same time we work hard to earn a lot of money, who can make up the loss we lose.
There are a greet number of exercises we should take good care of in this book. For example, the most impressive to me is to think of at least five things which make you feel warmed and happy that day before you go to bed. I did it that night I read it, the effect was exciting. In my mind, that was a conventional day and noting special had taken place. But as I recalled the day and think carefully about the five things, I felt warmed, happy, and slept with smile on face. On that moment, I thought I started to understand the definition of happiness. Since then, I did this exercise every night, I think I gain a lot through it. Therefore, as we all know, to establish good habits has great meaning to build our qualities and enhance our feeling of happiness.
I dare bet no one can give a definition of happiness, but we can really feel happiness by ourselves’ attempt. Don’t forget: happiness is the combination of pleasure and meaning.
However, when we feel grief or despair, we may complain of the unfairness of society. Happiness doesn’t equal to delight, happiness may contain sorrow, difficulty, challenge and so on. Whatever, we need to clearly aware happiness is still our normal state，unlucky things are just an episode instead. Furthermore, facing challenges will make us appreciate any kinds of joy. To gain real happiness, we must know whatever we will face , sadness, examination, or difficulty, we are supposed to feel happy from heart for life itself.
In the second chapter, the author told us how to realize happiness.
As for study, few students may say “I like it”, here the author raises some method that is efficient. Most students study under awful pressure, that makes them hatred studying. Whenever there is opportunity, they will stop to do something they prefer. Why can’t we make studying interesting for students? Students should be given liberal atmosphere to show their talent and do things they have interest in. Also, we don’t encourage that parents push children to do something beyond their ability, we say that only when the level of difficulty and ability are comparable, children could enjoy the experience of studying.
As for occupation, the most important factor for us to choose a job is we enjoy it. I completely agree to this point. Compared with people who earn a high wage, work long time every day ,always have much tough tasks to handle ,and have little spare time to share with family and companions, I would like to be a person doing my favorite job, earning medium wages, and enjoying my life colorful. What about you? If you want to be a manager, you need to supply employees with suitable occupation, this is helpful to take advantage of their talent and potential. At the time you bring happiness to others, you bring success to yourself.
How to find our favorite occupation? We can ask three questions to ourselves: What can give me meaning? What can give me pleasure? What are my strengths? Find out the common sections amongst them, maybe we would have a distinct orientation.
As for love and marriage, Doctor Tal Ben-Shahar also has his outstand understanding. Love and marriage are both pretty words for human race, there are millions of impressive love stories around the world. Different people have different ideas and method of love. The article refers that if you love someone, you should love what he naturally is in no condition. And, love is not comparable of sacrifice. If our conduct can bring happiness to both our lover and ourselves, what we do is valuable, or we should abandon that conduct of sacrificing.
I have heard a sentence in a movie which is “No matter how you choose the marriage, you will make mistake at last. What is the most important is to let the mistake keep on.” What a significant sentence! We shouldn’t keep looking forward to the best lover, what we need to do is getting understand our lover gradually and flourish love’s tree sincerely and carefully. We need to be understood instead of recognized. To understand and to be understand constantly will keep love fisher and endurable.
To love is easy, to marry means facing up every day together. Romantic love cannot prolong, but deep relationship will replace it, and happiness is alongside the whole procedure.
The third chapter is concerning some exercises about the essence of happiness and happiness in our daily life.
By doing these exercises, I know that we should help others, give love to others, to keep touch with happiness and transmit happiness; We should often spend sometime in doing our favorite things and getting together with people we love to make our happiness foundation stiffer; we should make good use of time to make our happiness eternal; we should believe in ourselves, find our ability and value to light the world; we should imagine what life we want to live in the future and learn to relax ourselves to live better; we should share our happiness with others to save the whole society’s happiness lack, and so fort.
Finally, in order to get hold of own happiness, we should learn to cherish present things. Happiness is accumulation of life, whatever the experience that impressed us or the drops of instant. So make full of our time to enjoy every moment in daily life, because every thing may be our precious memory tomorrow.
This is a book worth to be thinking, rereading, and prospect. The active psychology that Doctor Tal Ben-Shahar advocates is different from traditional psychology. It stresses practice rather than ideal theory. Maybe many points in the book are familiar to us all, but most time we just leave them alone and can’t remind of them. Reading this book recalls many things in my mind, it will educate me and leading me all the time.
In total, happiness exists everywhere, everyone has the capacity of being happy. The definition of happiness maybe variable, but happiness is always combination of pleasure and meaning in essential. Happiness is not ease, unlimited enjoyment, achievement or money, it contains things both wonderful and miserable. Money is not the ultimate aim of life, it is a mere way of obtaining happiness. Don’t be blind by the unrealistic temptation, make sure what we need truly. Be confident and build an accurate mental attitude，we have enough ability to enhance our happy feeling and establish from a colorful small life circle to a more harmonious world. To be happy is not our goal of life, but to be happier.
Let’s fighting for our real happiness happily!
